Tuesday, June 18, 2013
We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.
Kate of Eat the Damn Cake, The Stupidity of “Natural” Beauty (x)
…identity is a tool and not a label — an idea that you should be able [to] pick it up if it’s useful to you and put it down if it’s not, and one that you can redefine for yourself.
David Jay, Founder of Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (via gabennett)
Repeat after me kids:
A relationship does not have to be romantic and/or sexual to be important.
of course guys think its attractive to have low self esteem it means they’ve succeeded in forcing you to internalize the bullshit that makes them the arbiters of your self worth and gives them power over you for your whole life don’t fall for it love yourself and…
Monday, June 17, 2013
Two of the 4 potions I made today :) the one on the left is for gobytheshadow and the other one I made for me because I loved the bottle xD
I need more bottles though I ran out and I wanna make moreee
WHY IS THE MIRANDA LAWSON TAG SO FULL OF PORN
it makes me cry into my pillow at night
why are so many people hating on
my girlfriend Isabela recently?
CRIES she’s a beaUTIFUL person stahhp
Isabela: That night…I can’t stop thinking about it.
Fenris: Well, then I’ll see you later.
Isabela: That was direct.
Fenris: I thought I’d get straight to the point. Were you expecting flowers or something?
Isabela: Don’t be absurd.
Fenris: Then I’ll see you tonight.
here is my hilariously bad cassandra chibi, by the way
she’s looking for trUTH